March 13, 2019
Do you remember your pre-nursery days when your teachers would drill it in your head to say â€śSorryâ€ť and â€śPlease?â€ť Those magic words â€” Sorry, Please, and Thank you served as a validating certificate that our elders would look out for to determine if you were a good kid or a bad one.
Looks like there were indeed a lot of bad kids back then because of whom the world isnâ€™t all that great today! Now, we wish that maybe we all could take a refresher course in good manners. Whether itâ€™s your friend who refuses to put down his phone while out on a lunch with you or whether itâ€™s that irritating neighbour who insists on playing loud music after 9 pm. Or maybe, you, yourself, are committing etiquette fallacies without realizing it. Good manners are a rare sighting these days. Thatâ€™s just how it is.
But your mama raised you better. And to do justice to her incomparable upbringing we have combined a list of some of the most common bad manners that people display so that you can do some course-correction. Here you go:
No, itâ€™s definitely not about moral policing as much as itâ€™s about channeling your anger in a more productive manner. Besides, it doesnâ€™t really get the job done as well, does it? A much better way of responding to a tough situation would be explaining your grievance with a calm and composed manner. People are going to respect you more for that.
We agree that parenting is a hard, thankless job and there are days that are particularly difficult. Thatâ€™s just the truth of parenting. But remember, they are kids. They are bound to be a little unreasonable. It would be better if you talk to them beforehand, and explain what is expected out of them in the place where you are taking them. This is surely going to help.
Itâ€™s okay if you are someone who prefers something a little more low-key when it comes to your sartorial quotient but we would advise you to stop going overboard with the â€ścasual Fridaysâ€ť.
Even if you are going to your nearby grocery store to pick up bread, change out of your pajamas. There is absolutely no excuse for looking like a slob.
This is not bad manners rather itâ€™s just plain unkind and uncouth behavior. If anything, you should be more polite and patient with the elderly. Remember, age and time spare none, and your behavior towards them today is going to determine how your future generations treat you.
Thereâ€™s nothing more infuriating than when a person is trying to rush you when you are in the queue, by constantly looking over your shoulder or poking and shoving you. Please await your turn patiently, and respect the private space of the person standing in front of you. Itâ€™s basic courtesy.
Whether itâ€™s chomping down on your food like a relic of the Jurassic Era or using the same spoon for serving food and eating it, no one wants to have dinner or lunch with someone who forgoes these basic etiquettes. Remember, no elbows on the table and chew food with your mouth closed. This will go a long way in impressing your future dates.
A great invention of the 21st Century is the modern cell phone, but of late it has become the bane of our existence. People are always on their phones surfing, texting, chatting, and even shopping!
Itâ€™s great that you are always on the go but please refrain from talking loudly on the phone or using it while attending a meeting or lecture.
Thereâ€™s a thin line between being concerned and prying, and you need to walk it very carefully. If you are concerned about someone and feel like enquiring about their well-being, by all means, you should do so. But if you sense that the person is not very comfortable or forthcoming with the answers, then let it be. And please, donâ€™t raise sensitive topics such as salary, love life and parenting, especially if you donâ€™t know the person well. Remember, no one appreciates unsolicited advice.
A lot of people often donâ€™t thank their service staff or their subordinates, be it their waiter, office boy, or junior at work. This actually makes them appear like entitled slobs. Even if itâ€™s the waiterâ€™s job to serve you your food, you should thank him for doing it well, so that s/he is aware that his good work is valued. Do remember to thank everyone, who provided you with a service, even if you are paying for that service, it will surely make you a very agreeable person, and one whose business is appreciated by every establishment.
These were the common social behavioural mistakes that most of us commit in our daily lives, but now that we have given you this refresher, we are sure you are going to be very careful with these. So go ahead, be the person your mum would want you to be!